I’m getting divorced. Do I need a divorce attorney?

I’m getting divorced. Do I need a divorce attorney?

When considering divorce, many New Hampshire residents first ask a simple question:  “Do I really need a lawyer to get a divorce?”  Yes.  In most divorces, there is some technical legal issue involving custody, child support, alimony, health insurance coverage, finances, or property division that requires the expertise of a divorce attorney.  Even if you…

How do I choose a divorce lawyer?

How do I choose a divorce lawyer?

Many New Hampshire residents may understand the importance of having a divorce lawyer but don’t necessarily know how to find one. Where do you find a top divorce lawyer in New Hampshire?  Should you look in the phonebook? Ask a friend?  Scour the Web?  Consult your therapist or religious adviser? Divorce is never easy.  A…

How long does it take to get divorced?

How long does it take to get divorced?

Once New Hampshire couples decide to get divorced, they typically want the process to be completed as quickly as possible.  The timeline for a divorce varies – in some cases it can be completed in as quickly as a few months and in others it can take years.  How can you and your spouse achieve…

How much does it cost to get divorced?

How much does it cost to get divorced?

Many New Hampshire couples considering divorce want to know just how much it will cost.  The cost of a divorce depends on the facts of each case.  And while the fee for filing for divorce in New Hampshire is just a few hundred dollars, it’s divorce attorney’s fees that ultimately run up the cost.  In…

How can I be the most helpful client to my divorce attorney?  What information about my life (family, finances, etc.) should I share with my divorce attorney to achieve my most successful divorce outcome?

How can I be the most helpful client to my divorce attorney? What information about my life (family, finances, etc.) should I share with my divorce attorney to achieve my most successful divorce outcome?

Many New Hampshire spouses think that once they hire a divorce attorney, they turn over all responsibility for the divorce to their lawyer.  That simply isn’t the case. The most successful divorces result from the spouse and the divorce attorney working together as a team.  From the start, you want to be forthright, making your…

What is the difference between a divorce and a separation?

What is the difference between a divorce and a separation?

New Hampshire residents frequently ask about the advantages and disadvantages of a divorce vs. a legal separation.  It is important to understand the difference between a divorce and a separation.  In a divorce proceeding, your marriage is dissolved so that you return to being a single person and can remarry if you choose to.  At…

Can I get a divorce without going to court?

Can I get a divorce without going to court?

Most New Hampshire couples want their divorce to be completed as quickly and efficiently as possible.  Many spouses also realize that if they can agree on the terms of the divorce themselves, as opposed to turning the case over to a judge to decide, they have more control over the issues and thus their futures. …

What is mediation?  Is it right for me?

What is mediation? Is it right for me?

Instead of leaving the terms of their divorce or custody case (now called “parental rights and responsibilities”) up to a judge, many New Hampshire couples are increasingly going to mediation to resolve disputes  – particularly regarding parenting, child support, and division of assets and finances.  To ensure your most successful mediation, it’s critical that you…

What is collaborative divorce?  Is it right for me and my spouse?

What is collaborative divorce? Is it right for me and my spouse?

  Over the past few years, more New Hampshire residents have been using collaborative practice to resolve their divorce, separation, or other family law case.  Collaborative law gives you an alternative to going to court – essentially, you and your spouse, along with your divorce lawyers, attend negotiation sessions at which the four of you…

I’m unmarried but I have kids.  How do I get custody?

I’m unmarried but I have kids. How do I get custody?

In New Hampshire, as in other states, the biggest priority for unmarried couples with children is to ensure they get “custody” of their kids.  If you’re an unmarried mother or a father, there are a few important things you should know about “custody” and what you need to do to get it.  First things first…

How do I get sole custody of my kids?

How do I get sole custody of my kids?

How do I get custody of my son?  How do I get custody of my daughter?  When some New Hampshire moms and dads get divorced, the single biggest issue is the desire to get “sole custody” of their children. In New Hampshire, what we informally still refer to as “getting custody” is now legally called…

My divorce involves primarily assets and property.  How do I ensure it gets fairly divided so I get what I deserve?

My divorce involves primarily assets and property. How do I ensure it gets fairly divided so I get what I deserve?

For many divorcing couples in New Hampshire, the biggest dispute is over “who gets what” in the divorce.  For example, “Who gets the house?”  But the division of assets goes far beyond the house.  Many professional couples and high-net worth individuals in New Hampshire have a financial situation that is much more complex than simply…

I already have a child support order.  How do I change it?

I already have a child support order. How do I change it?

Frequently, New Hampshire parents who have already gotten divorced or already gotten a child support order need to change or “modify” child support.  Don’t worry – you are not alone.  Two of the most commonly asked questions include: “How do I change custody?” or “How do I change child support?” There are some important conditions…

I lost my job.  Do I still have to pay child support?

I lost my job. Do I still have to pay child support?

In this difficult economy, many New Hampshire residents who pay child support have lost their jobs.  If you have become unemployed and were previously ordered to pay child support, you unfortunately cannot just “stop paying” because you no longer have employment income.  To remedy this situation, you will need a “modification” to your child support…

My ex and I agreed upon visitation rights.  But he or she isn’t respecting what we agreed to.  How do I take action?

My ex and I agreed upon visitation rights. But he or she isn’t respecting what we agreed to. How do I take action?

When New Hampshire moms and dads get divorced or separated, a “Parenting Plan” is issued as an order by the Circuit Court – Family Division.  This Plan includes a specific schedule of the days and times the children will be with each parent.  But quite often, a few months or even a few years later,…

We got divorced without lawyers but it’s no longer working.  How do I find a lawyer who can help me renegotiate our arrangement?

We got divorced without lawyers but it’s no longer working. How do I find a lawyer who can help me renegotiate our arrangement?

New Hampshire couples often try to save money and cut costs by getting a divorce without the guidance of a divorce attorney.  However, “do-it-yourself” divorces often come with a whole slew of problems that are only realized months or years down the road.  Typically, there is a technical legal issue that wasn’t addressed properly during…

I wasn’t happy with my previous divorce lawyer.  How do I pick a new one?

I wasn’t happy with my previous divorce lawyer. How do I pick a new one?

Choosing a divorce lawyer isn’t easy.  For most New Hampshire residents getting a divorce, this is the first time they have ever hired or worked with an attorney.  It’s not uncommon for New Hampshire residents to be unhappy with their first divorce lawyer.  Perhaps you found your initial attorney from the phone book, via Google,…

I’m pregnant and want a divorce.  What do I do?

I’m pregnant and want a divorce. What do I do?

The simple reality of divorce is that it can and does occur at any stage in a couple’s family life – when their children are young, in high school, in college, or off living on their own.  As such, it is not unheard of for a spouse to seek a divorce even when she is…

I’m a mother of young children.  What should I do to protect them and care for them in a divorce?

I’m a mother of young children. What should I do to protect them and care for them in a divorce?

Divorce not only impacts you and your spouse – but also your kids, extended family, and friends.  How kids react to divorce depends on many factors – age, maturity, temperament, and relationships with each parent.  In the case of very young children (toddlers, pre-school), you and your spouse can’t easily sit them down and explain…

My kids are teenagers.  How do I talk to them about divorce and how can I ensure I work with an attorney dedicated to getting us our best outcome?

My kids are teenagers. How do I talk to them about divorce and how can I ensure I work with an attorney dedicated to getting us our best outcome?

Each year, thousands of New Hampshire teenagers experience their parents going through divorce or separation. Teens can be especially affected by a divorce, due to the fact that they may have strong attachments to both parents, may have developed their own opinions about the family unit, and may be beginning to explore relationships of their…

I’m getting divorced.  What if my kids are in college?

I’m getting divorced. What if my kids are in college?

Frequently, couples will wait to get divorced until their kids have left home.  Often, the impetus and reasoning is that children are older and more independent, and thus the break-up of the family won’t be as traumatic for them.  If you’re a New Hampshire resident getting a divorce and your child is in college, one…

I’m in a same-sex marriage.  How do I get divorced?

I’m in a same-sex marriage. How do I get divorced?

New Hampshire is among a number of states that recognizes same-sex marriage.  The others include California, Connecticut, Delaware, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New York, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington, as well as Washington, D.C.  Same-sex marriage became legal in New Hampshire in January, 2010.  Please note:  if you were joined in a civil…

How do I get custody of my grandchildren?

How do I get custody of my grandchildren?

More and more New Hampshire grandparents are finding themselves in the position of raising grandsons and granddaughters.  There are many reasons that grandparents are awarded “custody” of their grandkids (in most cases known as “guardianship of minors”), including:  the parents are handicapped, the parents have drug or alcohol problems, the parents have neglected or abused…

What is “Family Law”?

What is “Family Law”?

Over the last few decades, the number of court cases involving intimate family matters has exploded.  As a result, in 2009, New Hampshire created the “Circuit Court” which has an entirely separate division for family law cases – the “Family Division.”  Family law cases handled in the “Family Division” include divorce, unmarried parent “custody” cases…

I’m a pet owner.  My dog or cat is a member of my family.  How do I ensure I get custody of my pet?

I’m a pet owner. My dog or cat is a member of my family. How do I ensure I get custody of my pet?

Many New Hampshire residents consider their dogs and cats to be “part of the family.”  When a couple divorces, there can quite often be a “tug-of-war” over who gets the family pet.  Regrettably, many New Hampshire courts view pets as “property” as opposed to what they are – “living beings” – so they get awarded…

Should I hire the nastiest, most aggressive lawyer to help me get divorced?  If not, what are the benefits of hiring an attorney whose behavior is more moderate or who is a good negotiator or dealmaker?

Should I hire the nastiest, most aggressive lawyer to help me get divorced? If not, what are the benefits of hiring an attorney whose behavior is more moderate or who is a good negotiator or dealmaker?

Many New Hampshire residents say they want a “barracuda” for a divorce lawyer because they believe it’s their best path to securing a future for themselves and their kids.  However, aggressive, demanding, and bullying behavior doesn’t necessarily “win the day” in a divorce case.  Not only do these attorneys tend to run up huge attorney’s…

My husband / wife doesn’t want a divorce.  What do I do?

My husband / wife doesn’t want a divorce. What do I do?

Divorce is a life-changing and emotional event in a couple’s life.  Each spouse often feels very differently about the transition that is about to unfold and experiences a vast range of emotions such as – sadness, regret, apprehension, anxiety, fear of the future, embarrassment, and anger.  If you have made up your mind and are…

Can my spouse and I use the same lawyer to get a divorce?

Can my spouse and I use the same lawyer to get a divorce?

In trying to save money, many New Hampshire couples initially wonder if they can get a single attorney to handle their divorce.  However, under rules of professional conduct, New Hampshire divorce lawyers are not allowed to represent both spouses.  Quite simply:  Even if you and your spouse agree on all terms of the divorce, from…

I’m getting divorced.  Should I file papers before my spouse?

I’m getting divorced. Should I file papers before my spouse?

When contemplating divorce and preparing to file papers, many New Hampshire residents think there is a strategic advantage to filing their “divorce papers” before their husband or wife.  Although in a few situations, there is a good reason to file first, in most divorces, there is no need to “race” your spouse to the courthouse. …

My spouse handles our finances.  What should I be concerned about if I’m filing for divorce?

My spouse handles our finances. What should I be concerned about if I’m filing for divorce?

In many New Hampshire marriages, especially long-term marriages, there is inevitably a “division of labor” so that each spouse ends up taking responsibility for certain tasks for the family.  In your marriage, maybe one of you took a greater role in caring for the kids, and the other was responsible for earning income for the…

I’m getting divorced in New Hampshire.  Can I get a part of my spouse’s retirement or pension?

I’m getting divorced in New Hampshire. Can I get a part of my spouse’s retirement or pension?

If you are getting divorced in New Hampshire, all property accumulated during the marriage is considered part of the “marital estate” (property of the marriage) and gets divided between you and your spouse.  The “marital estate” is comprised of many different types of property – real estate (house, commercial property, etc.), personal property (furniture, jewelry,…

What is a QDRO?  Why does it matter for my divorce?

What is a QDRO? Why does it matter for my divorce?

Many New Hampshire residents own retirement accounts and plans as benefits through their employment – for example, 401(k)’s, 403(a)’s, 401(b)’s, and pensions.  If you’re getting divorced and your husband or wife has retirement funds or plans that were obtained during the marriage, they are considered property of the marriage, and you are entitled to a…

What is a guardian ad litem or GAL?  How do I ensure they understand all that I am doing to protect the best interest of my children?

What is a guardian ad litem or GAL? How do I ensure they understand all that I am doing to protect the best interest of my children?

If you are a New Hampshire resident getting divorced or separated from your kids’ father or mother, and you and the other parent do not agree on who should get “custody” of the kids (now called “parental rights and responsibilities”), the New Hampshire Circuit Court – Family Division may appoint a guardian ad litem or…

My husband had an affair.  How do I get a divorce?

My husband had an affair. How do I get a divorce?

New Hampshire residents getting divorced find that their marriages fail for all sorts of reasons – sometimes spouses grow apart, stop having common interests, or simply fall out of love.  In some cases, there is inappropriate conduct by one spouse that causes the breakdown.  New Hampshire spouses who are getting divorced must prove to the…

How do I talk to my kids about divorce?

How do I talk to my kids about divorce?

Every year in New Hampshire, thousands of kids experience the confusion and  challenges associated with their parents filing for divorce.  Divorces are, without fail, difficult and painful for children.  But, if you talk to your kids in a sensitive, thoughtful, and age-appropriate way, and guide them through this transition, you have the chance to minimize…

I’m a grandparent.  My son and his wife are getting divorced.  How can I be of support to him and the kids?

I’m a grandparent. My son and his wife are getting divorced. How can I be of support to him and the kids?

For most New Hampshire parents it’s painful to see your adult child go through a divorce or separation.  Even if you had mixed feelings about the marriage or doubts about whether it would last, the finality of divorce brings with it feelings of loss – loss of the marriage itself, changes in the relationship you…

I’m a grandparent, and my grandkids’ mother isn’t allowing me to see them.  What can I do to visit with my grandchildren?

I’m a grandparent, and my grandkids’ mother isn’t allowing me to see them. What can I do to visit with my grandchildren?

For many New Hampshire children, grandparents play a crucial role in their lives – providing love, care, comfort, guidance, and at times stability and security.  However, some New Hampshire grandparents find themselves in the unfortunate position of being denied contact with their grandkids.  Sometimes this happens because the parents are getting divorced, and one parent…

How do I avoid a nasty divorce?

How do I avoid a nasty divorce?

There are many reasons why New Hampshire couples end up in “nasty” divorce proceedings.  Frequently this occurs because the spouses’ emotions drive the divorce or because one or both attorneys bring a consistently belligerent tone to the case. Below are three tips to help you avoid a “nasty” divorce: How to Avoid a “Nasty” New…

I am ready to file for divorce, but I am bursting with emotions.  I am angry, scared, anxious, nervous, embarrassed and don’t know what to do next.  What should I do?

I am ready to file for divorce, but I am bursting with emotions. I am angry, scared, anxious, nervous, embarrassed and don’t know what to do next. What should I do?

Divorce and separation are never easy, but you don’t have to go through this transition on your own.  Your family, friends, trusted co-workers, and more frequently a lawyer or therapist can be tremendously valuable resources to you.  A meeting with an experienced divorce attorney or a referral to a therapist who is experienced in counseling…

I’m getting divorced.  Are there any therapists or social workers in Manchester, New Hampshire (or the surrounding cities) that you’d recommend to help guide me through this process?

I’m getting divorced. Are there any therapists or social workers in Manchester, New Hampshire (or the surrounding cities) that you’d recommend to help guide me through this process?

Divorce is one of the most stressful events you will go through in your life.  There is a huge range of emotions you may be experiencing – including, hurt, regret, apprehension, anxiety, fear of the future, anger, guilt, and embarrassment.  And at times these emotions may feel overwhelming.  Although an experienced and trusted divorce lawyer…

I’m getting divorced.  Are there any books, articles, or websites you recommend to help guide me through this process?

I’m getting divorced. Are there any books, articles, or websites you recommend to help guide me through this process?

If you are a New Hampshire resident getting divorced, there are many informational and self-help books available on the market.  Two very informative books written by New Hampshire lawyers that Attorney Edrea M. Grabler (of Family Law New Hampshire) recommends are: The New Hampshire Divorce Handbook by Honey Hastings Divorce Mediation from the Inside Out: …

I don’t live in Manchester.  Will Family Law New Hampshire still take my case if I live in Nashua or Concord?

I don’t live in Manchester. Will Family Law New Hampshire still take my case if I live in Nashua or Concord?

Attorney Edrea M. Grabler handles family law cases throughout southern New Hampshire, including Hillsborough, Merrimack, and Rockingham counties.  Attorney Grabler has appeared before judges in the Circuit Courts in Manchester, Nashua, Concord, Goffstown, Hooksett, Merrimack, Derry, Brentwood, and Salem.       For immediate expert feedback (and a confidential perspective about your situation), please contact…

What practice areas is Family Law New Hampshire and Attorney Edrea M. Grabler particularly known for?  How do I know if she is the top attorney to help me achieve my best divorce outcome?

What practice areas is Family Law New Hampshire and Attorney Edrea M. Grabler particularly known for? How do I know if she is the top attorney to help me achieve my best divorce outcome?

Attorney Edrea M. Grabler represents clients in a wide range of family law matters, which include the following twelve specialty areas: 1. Divorce 2. Alimony 3. Property Division 4. Custody or “Parental Rights and Responsibilities” 5. Child Support 6. Changes to Previous Orders or “Modifications” 7. Paternity 8. Guardianship 9. Terminations of Parental Rights 10….

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